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Makin dikasihani..makin laku..
12/05/2016, 4:12 pm05
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Susah juga rangkai judulnya.
Tapi ini tentang karakter.
Karakter orang yang suka share plus tentu yg baca postingan yg bikin mellow ato malah nangis bombay…n suruh ketik kata *min.

Kesimpulan saya.. tanpa sadar kita lebih ‘senang’ bila melihat postingan yg menyedihkan ato memprihatinkan.
Mungkin..mungkin empati ato sekadar simpati org2 masih bagus adanya. Saya patut bersyukur.

Tapi abis ngerasa kasihan..kita berbuat apa..utk membantu org tersebut?
Hahhh…bantu share
.. oke itu udh lumayan.
Trus apa lagi? Bantu cari lokasi di mana org ybs…
Ini lbh lumayan…
Apa lagi? Bantu hub dinas ato pihak terkait untuk bantu..
Wah..bagus itu..
Kalo kamu..apa? Ga bantu apa-apa..cuma ketik *min ajah..
$#@&??

Pfiuhhhh…ga heran shitnetron negara manapun yg jual kesedihan..yg ceritanya mellow selangit… bnyk disukai.
Karena kita…jangan2 ‘penikmat’ penderitaan org lain.

Saya punya contoh yg jelas.
Kisah saya jatuh bangun bersama Arsa yg autistik di sebuah website…sangat digandrungi.
Komennya banyak banget. Kayaknya sampai bbrp bln yg lalu msh ada yg komen n sharing ceritanya

Lalu saya buat lanjutannya. Bagaimana saya dan Arsa ‘move on’ dari perjuangan n kesedihan masa lalu…untuk menata hari depan….Yang ini malah minus komen. He..he…sungguh kondisi yg aneh, bukan..

Sy cb browsing ttg hal ini.
Ternyata ada temuan mengejutkan dari
https://www.google.co.id/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://researchnews.osu.edu/archive/tragedies.htm&ved=0ahUKEwi07pKG56TLAhVRB44KHZDTBHkQFggmMAQ&usg=AFQjCNGWqB_QB6Rh3DEKhqCG7cCJwN228g

Ini sedikit kutipan dari artikel tersb.
“Tragic stories often focus on themes of eternal love, and this leads viewers to think about their loved ones and count their blessings,” said Silvia Knobloch-Westerwick, lead author of the study and associate professor of communication at Ohio State University.

Tragedi membuat org memikirkan org2 yg dicintai dan mensyukurinya.

Riset yg kemudian dilakukan Knobloch-Westerwick ini sampai pada kesimpulan

“Tragedies don’t boost life happiness by making viewers think more about themselves. They appeal to people because they help them to appreciate their own relationships more,” she said.

But why would people have to get sad by watching a tragedy to feel grateful about relationships in their own lives?

Knobloch-Westerwick said this fits with research in psychology that suggests negative moods make people more thoughtful.

“Positive emotions are generally a signal that everything is fine, you don’t have to worry, you don’t have to think about issues in your life,” she said.

“But negative emotions, like sadness, make you think more critically about your situation. So seeing a tragic movie about star-crossed lovers may make you sad, but that will cause you to think more about your own close relationships and appreciate them more.”

Research has also shown that relationships are generally the major source of happiness in our lives, so it is no surprise that thinking about your loved ones would make you happier, she said.

“Tragedies bring to mind close relationships, which makes us happy.”

Emosi yg positif umumnya pertanda tak ada yg perlu dikhawatirkan..tak ada yang perlu diperjuangkan.

Emosi yang negatif seperti kesedihan atau penderitaan..membuatmu berpikir lebih kritis dan bersyukur atas relasi dan interaksi pertemanan selama ini.

Nah…
Mudah2an aja riset itu benar adanya ya..
Sebelum saya jadi..khawatir kalau2 keprihatinan atau rasa kasihan terhadap seseorg, diekspos dan disalahgunakan orang yg berniat jahat…misal utk melakukan penipuan.

Kuncinya sih…listen to your inner voice.
Mo kasihan ato ga…yuk belajar dengarkan kata hati.


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Rasa kasihan ini kerap dimanfaatkan orang untuk menjaring komen di facebook.

Comment by latihanblogimcw

Betul banget

Comment by uinspireivy

apa boleh buat, orang2 memang lebih senang dg tragedi daripada pencapaian. 🙂

Comment by a!

Pfiuuhhh..sedihnya ya. Bera0rti bnyk

Comment by uinspireivy




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